Category: ARTICLE

  • Bring in a change – Education system

    I love to whine. People call me a crib, and crib yes I do. It pains to see the happenings around, and pains even more to suppress the helplessness.

    It was a friend’s birthday last Saturday, and we were reflecting upon the last twenty six years or so in our lives. Humble beginnings, fighting spirit, things working out in our favour, Engineering, MBA and now this marketing job.

    It all seems like a dream come true when you look at it from outside. I know for a fact that 2 lakh people give the Cat every year, and only 3000 make it! And many of them reach that level solely through charity events, because poverty is rife in third world countries. But a proud feeling and it makes me crib even more, that in spite of all these backing what use is it if I am not able to bring in the required change?

    We kept talking, and the topic graduated to the education system in our country. The root cause of the entire accusation game that Indian students are substandard. Narayana Murthy and Chetan bhagat lash out in public over the standard of IIT, and their relevance? What is the use?

    It is going to remain so ,till we bring in a fundamental change in the thinking of the Indian parent. That would come when they start believing that a living can be made by doing what their child is best at, rather than doing what the world thinks is the best thing to do!

    Me and my friend, got into a more serious discussion, and were trying to delve on the root cause of these phenomena? Why is our education system like the way it is? And more importantly, what would it take to change it.

    We could not really come up with anything substantial, but yes we did agree on the things that need to be changed, and ASAP.

    Among the various things that we spoke about, five things that I would like to see change in the education system are:

    • Engineering and Medicine, and then an MBA is not the only education possible : Done with tenth standard? Good. Now you are taking science. Done with twelth? Good. Now engineering or medicine? That is where the whole world ends! Sadly! There needs to be a fundamental shift in the mindset that arts can be as rewarding and fulfilling.
    • Chance to pursue hobbies
      During B-School we had an exchange student from france who had done his graduation in mountaineering! How cool is that? Can you imagine anyone in india doing so? Not in the near future am sure. In a society where even pursuing music as a side hobby is seen in negative, such mountaineering courses seem far fetched. Should change!
    • Marking System
      I got 99.36 percentile in CAT, and I would get a call from IIM. Oh! You got 99.24 percentile? Hope you get a call too! With such a huge population, and everyone vying for the same seat, it is only fair to assum that such a situation would arise. How do we negate it? Give grades rather. A 99.28, and a 99.12 is not much of a difference, and appreciate this fact.
      I am not saying there should not be merit, but it can be judged in a better way rather than create a rat race for the same.
    • Ratta Maarna
      Learning by Rote. The single biggest thing that engulfs our education system to rot it. It should rather be termed as learning to Rot. There is enough said and done about it, and even Aamir tried explaining the importance of learning how to apply concepts in practical life in 3 idiots, but of little avail. Needs to change immediately!
    • Coaching centres
      My friend lambasted, “These are the real root cause of all rut in the system”. Really? Are these the cause or the effect? Debatable. But no doubt, they do propogate the rut in the system. Works for them, that is their business. They are the ones who tell parents that it is important for the child to start taking IIT coaching right from his birth. They are the ones who make the engineering degree sound glamorous, and put out big hoardings of all top rankers luring the dreamy innocent parents. They are the ones who propogate that engineering and medicine is the only future, that is till they started offering ICWA and other verticals of coaching.

    What do you about these? Nothing. They are just catering to a demand. The parent should understand what is good for their child, rather than driving the kids crazy and killing the entire creativity in the child by forcing him/her through those strenuous coaching hours. Not to talk about the coaching fees that parents shell out through their nose.
    I think Revolution 2020, Chetan Bhagat’s book gives a better understanding on how these coaching centres are killing the nation, and depriving the future india of worthy people.
    I am back to cribbing. Nothing much would change. Obviously not, if people like me and you just sit and crib at the system sipping our drinks! Nothing is going to change.

  • Why do you get married – II

    In continuation to the previous post – Don’t marry! Be happy! ( Line from a famous Telugu movie starring Nagarjuna).

    Well, as I have already stated and made my stand very very clear – don’t ever rush into this whole thing called marriage. These seven pheras, take less than seven minutes to be done, but binds you for seven lives.( okay, at least for this one life, you are bound for life!).

    The big fat Indian wedding is a major event in our culture, and I don’t have the numbers, but am sure it is one of the biggest economy driving events in the country. Just imagine the sheer amount of crazy money spent on these do’s.

    Parents start thinking of it right since their bear a child, girls plan it once they turn 15 (Even Barbie dolls in indian bridal wear is hit), Films and TV make crores and some more crores out of this one saga – -Indian Marriage (Sooraj Barjatya is still counting his crores!).

    Coming to the core of the issue, why do you want to get married? I don’t really have an answer, and have not got a convincing one yet. Here I tell you, why you should not get married –

    Expenses

    It tires me to see that finance guys are the first ones to get married. Guys, now you should be the first ones to know that your expenses shoot up like crazy once you get married. That black sedan you have been eying since long, will now be a longer dream, or even convert to a normal hatchback reality.

    I remember a friend of mine, a girl who recently got married, often saying this – “ After marriage the girls income doubles and the guy’s halves!” Nothing could be truer.

    Okay, I know the dowry system in india works to bypass this negative, but well that is a one time payment! Fin guys, you should know this.

    Compromise

    “Hey dude lets go out to the sports bar today after office to catch up with the ManU match”. I dare not ask this question to a married guy with the fear of being a “jalan par namak chidana”.

    Compromise, as it is defined, is an agreement reached by mutual adjustment and it is impossible to make a marriage work without it. Remember, “Haan maine compromise kiya.. lekin compromise kaun nahi karta?” That is the reality!

    You like Chinese, she likes continental. Compromise. You like Comedy movies, she likes drama? Compromise. Even the remote control to your own 42” LED TV would become a matter of compromise.

    Adventurous

    I happened to meet Akshay Kumar in a Company event yesterday, and a member from the audience very openly asked him – “pehle to theek hai, lekin abhi shaadi aur bache ke baad how do you convince them to agree on your stunts?”. No Answer!

    What? You want to drive down to Nandi hills in the middle of the night after being decently drunk? Go get a divorce lawyer first.

    Friends

    Again, Sorry. Your weekends will all be spent with your wifey, not leaving anytime for a beer binge. On Friday evenings, you would just have to whine at your home and watch TV, while the luckier ones get to drink and play poker all night!

    And well, even if you are able to convince your “better half” of the evening out with friends, be prepared to lose all your money in poker talking on the phone – “yes baby. Will not drink much baby. Will sure get the bread and eggs on the way back!”. So much, that you stand the risk of not being invited again from the next weekend onwards.

    Housework

    Socks lying here and there, and the underwear on the fridge. Get them out immediately dude, you are now married, living with someone who thinks they are the most civilized people on the planet!

    Cleaning, washing, cooking, shopping, dusting – all of these become part of your normal life, and in all probability would find way in your weekend timetable!

    Guests

    Wife’s third cousin is in town? You have to host him, and be nice to him. Treat him with all the niceties, and most importantly spend time with him.

    Even your relatives would start expecting that you now behave like a family man, and host people in a similar way.

    Explanations

    You got of your hometown after engineering so that you would not have to explain that late night out and the beer, and now you want to again invite the same discipline back on your head? All the best!

    And well, the most important reason to not get married to seek happiness – it does not last forever.  Even sex starts feeling like bland curry. Diamonds do last forever.

    Disclaimer: These two posts have been written with a funny vein, and I have nothing against marriage. I strongly believe in it, and as they say, the views expressed above are purely blogsake, and I don’t endorse them at all. Don’t sue me!

  • Campaign – Against Eve Teasing

    “Humein bhi thoda usi najar se dekh liya karo “, a man drools at a girl with saliva dripping out of his mouth, and he laughing along with his friends.
    “Arrey thoda lag gaya ji.. sorry ji”, rubbing his shoulder across to the helpless woman, a man smiles.
    You must have come across these sights in your everyday life. The indian girl as it is said, has to face many a odds, just fighting her very existence.
    Eve teasing is a common phenomena across cities, and across classes, and has been there since ever (Guess it is called eve for that reason). The girl just silently suffers and accepts it as a way of life!
    No More! Say this young group of students from a local Mumbai college. “Chappal Marungi” campaign is an unique initiative to counter the same, encouraging girls to strike back at the menace mongers.
    The campaign literally encourages women to beat down harassment, with the weapon that every woman carries – Chappal. (Sorry, black pepper powder has still not caught on!).
    From an advertising point of view, their campaign has managed to create quite a buzz, and using the chappal as the symbolic weapon has gone down really well with the intended target group of women, who completely relate with it. To drive their message further, this group of students has actually placed boxes full of chappals around the college premises.

    Chappal Marungi

    All the best to their tribe, and hope it increases. Hope the campaign catches up and reaches other places too, where it is equally needed if not more. ( Delhi-ites listening?)

  • Why do you get married?

    One more of my friend announces that he is now ready to be crucified. Why? Why do people do this to themselves? Do they lose complete hope in life that they resort to such desperate measures to bring back the spark in life?

    Of late, everyday morning, the first thing I get to see on Facebook is congratulatory messages on someone’s wall.

    “Hey Congratulations!, you look so cute together”

    “Congos dude, hav a great life ahead”

    Arrey! Kahan ki great life? He just announced that he is willing to abandon the same great life, and ready to jump into the bandwagon. Did you not read that? He is fuckin’ getting married.

    Know what? I did think about the same? If so many people are getting married, probably there would be something good about it. Alas!

    I was talking to Hari, a friend of mine who had got married a couple of months back, asking him the million dollar question – Why did you get married?

    Me: “you don’t intend to have children any soon. You are both financially independent, and you have also bought your own dishes, and all the white goods, with the linen and curtains, so why did you get married?”

    Hari:  “dude, it is about love and commitment. It is about wanting to spend the rest of you life with that one person, and beginning today!”

    I was surprised at this sudden outburst of frustration wihtin myself, and not one to give up so easily, I retorted –

    “ You must be frikking joking. Who in their right mind would commit to being with someone FOREVER?”, I took a breath, gulping my whole mug of beer.

    “What if five years down the line, the girl does not appeal to you anymore? I guess you would stay with her forever because you promised to. You can’t leave her because then you would be breaking the marital vows, and that be immoral right?”, I uncork one more beer bottle.

    “Nah dude. You don’t get it. Once you know within that she is the one, then that is it, she is the one. The voice within you would speak in itself, and it needs to.”, Hari mutters in as much a calm way as possible, sipping his beer.

    I am still not convinced, I speak again –

    “Look, 90% of the couples just stay married only because of kids, finances, religion, peer and parental pressure, or something like that. If the only thing keeping a couple together is the inconvenience of divorce, then their marriage has already failed. That means romantically-speaking, the overwhelming majority of marriages fail.”, I try finishing half the mug.

    “So, where exactly is the love in it?”, I ask.

    “Well dude, I do not want to talk qbout this any further”, and this time even hari gulps down his whole mug of beer, getting into his thoughtful mode looking at the empty  ( surprisingly!) road next to my balcony with a ciggarette in his hand.

    The problem with these going to be married type is this – they do not talk. Oh! Wait, is this not the statement the wifey is supposed to be making?

    The real reason why the majority gets married is – PRESSURE. Be it parental, peer or even self.

    There are a lot of people who very strongly believe they are not yet ready to tie the nuptial knot, but then fear that they are soon approaching 30, and might have to remain single all their life. So they just jump. Are they happy? Well, you think.

    There are an equal number of guys (am no MCP!) who try running away from marriage as far as possible, but get caught in the whole family, parental pressure and give in.

    For all of you, here is a creative service –

     

    Fictional ad! ( inspired from http://matmaniac.blogspot.com/2011/09/delayshaadicom.html )

    p.s.: this is the first in the 2 post series ranting on marriage.

    Credit: Portland citizenship lawyer

  • Ola..

    Ola..Well the spanish bug has bitten me too, and am dying to go to bunol to the La Tomatina festival.

    Well, it has been real long that I have scribbled something here, and in spite of all my promises to be regular, this time it just got too delayed. Reasons?? Well, no reason can justify this, but well I would like to make an attempt and take this opportunity in updating the happenings around me.

    After that fateful morning in the last week of September last year, life has been one roller coaster ride. Little did I realize at that point of time that one phone call, communicating one decision, could be a beginning to quite a wonderful self-introspecting journey.

    The nine months have been like the most thoughtful time that I have spent, and got to learn so many new things, and so much about behaviors, triggers and the society in large. Those nine months would forever be etched in my mind, and would sure serve as a point of reference to all my doings and my behavior for a long time to come I am sure. It sure will bear an impact to the way I conduct am sure.

    Well, without getting too much into detail, the general update is, I have joined Coca Cola India as an assistant marketing manager, and have moved to the city of dreams – Mumbai. After all the initial brouhaha, have started settling down in this metropolis, and getting used to the way of living here and getting to know more about the city with every passing day.

    One thing, Mumbai never ceases to surprise me every day. Will come back soon with more details about life here, and the people around. Till then adios!